Saving my sanity (and my eyesight)

[jadesfire]

I really hate doing this, and thought about turning comments off. Then I decided that I keep telling people that their journals are their own spaces and they can do what they want with them, and I like to stand by what I say.

So.

After some thought and basic maths (because skipping 500 entries just on journals is insane), I've decided that I need to trim my friends list. I'm stopping watching a whole bunch of comms, but I've also decided to take some personal journals off my list to make it a manageable size. It's tempting to make excuses and give justifications, but what it comes down to is that I'm doing it, and hopefully won't be taking off anyone who wanted to stay on. It would help if 'friend' wasn't such an emotive word, but that's a side issue. I post a reasonable amount of stuff publicly, and am obsessive about replying to all comments, so you're not missing too much. I just need to cut down on my own reading list.

Hopefully I now stand a chance of being able to talk to people more, rather than less. Or at least I'm going to try to. And if you think I took you off in error, drop me a comment/PM to let me know.

Comments

[miss-zedem.livejournal.com]

You're keeping me though, right? *flutters eyelashes*

Hee. I know what you mean. There are people on my flist who I rarely hear from, but I keep anyway cos they seem to like my burbling for some reason. But periodically, it's good to trim those who you never chat with, especially if you can't remember why they're there in the first place...

[jadesfire2808.livejournal.com]

Oh, go on then, how could I resist those eyelashes?

It works both ways - I'd got some people friended who I'd added in a fit of "ooh, shiny people in shiny new fandom" but never actually read or speak to. I've cut back quite radically, but hopefully will save what little remains of my sanity...

[tintop-lizzy.livejournal.com]

I've heard that you can use the view friendlist thingy to split up your viewing quite well. I'm OCD about trying to keep up to date and this keeps me sane. I have a problem about commenting too much or not enough, and so on.Meh, it'll sort itself out in time.

[jadesfire2808.livejournal.com]

These things usually do :)

[roga.livejournal.com]

I don't have as many friends as a lot of people, but at about 80, I still find it hard to keep up with the flist - at least, to keep up and still be able to interact the way I want to. And because of that, I don't watch any communities, other than newsletters or ones that don't update frequently. I understand you 100%...

[jadesfire2808.livejournal.com]

I've cut mine down to 75, as I know I have a tendency to go "ooh, shiny" and randomly friend people who I then never talk to, and want to give myself some room again :) Like you, I only watch newsletters, as it's pretty much the only way to stay sane...

[smtfhw.livejournal.com]

I must admit I've recently stopped reading a lot of comms... in my case largely because I got very tired of wading through effluent disguised as fanfic!

Meanwhile am flattered that I appear to be still here!

[jadesfire2808.livejournal.com]

Hee. I now only read if it's a story by or recced by someone on my flist. Like you, I don't have the time or energy to wade through the rest.

Very much still here! Definitely :D

[aeron-lanart.livejournal.com]

You still have sanity to save? We're obviously doing something wrong *g*

I think if I was confronted with 500 entries just on personal journals I would probably need to do something about it too. Luckily I've not been in that situation yet. I do have to admit to being more ramble-y than usual recently and *shock* *horror* posting more than once a day! Considering that when I first got this journal I didn't think I would ever use it except for posting fic, it just goes to show how comfortable I have become here, and I've 'met' some lovely people too (you being one of them).

I've stopped watching some of the comms because I was just getting piddled off at the attitude of some of the posters, but I'm still a member just in case there's something interesting...

[jadesfire2808.livejournal.com]

*snort* Just a little bit, and it's very important to me...

It really hit me when we got back that I just have too many people on there and I don't talk to half of them. Which is fine, because some people don't really post, but do comment, and others I have on there just to read. These things tend to go in waves. Unless you're me and have to physically stop yourself from posting six or seven times a day...maybe I need a job with more contact with people...

Comms were driving me insane - I belong so I can cross-post fic, but other than that, I just don't bother. It's bad enough getting attitude from the readers, I don't need it over here as well.

[smithy161.livejournal.com]

Oh, I know the feeling, my flist is getting away from me, but it could have something to do with having almost as many communities as friends!

Glad to still be here, btw!

[jadesfire2808.livejournal.com]

I had a look when you said that, and I actually belong to more comms than I have friends now! But I don't watch most of them, and only really belong to most so I can post fic. I should probably de-friend a lot of them, but they're useful with all the modding I do. Ah well, as long as I can't see the fanbrats, I can forget they're there ;)

And of course you're still here! I kept the best :D

[dune-drd.livejournal.com]

Too much reading lets me scroll too fast and I bet I'm missing quite a bit... I almost feel bad for being so active at the moment :/