The one in which I flatter myself...

[jadesfire]

I've had to have a tidy up of my friends list, purely for self-preservation - I can't be skipping 100 entries every morning to see what everyone's up to. And there are people who I thought were on the list who turned out not to be. So.

I don't think I trimmed my list too drastically, and I don't think I write anything fascinating enough under friends-lock that anyone will be too disappointed. I'm half-expecting to get a lot of sighs of relief...

Friends lists are funny things, and very personal - I'm taking my time about friending back at the moment, mostly due to a down-turn in the amount of time I have to read. So friend or defriend (that's a verb? seriously?) at will, and I will do the same and (hopefully) no hard feelings.

Comments

[asrai99.livejournal.com]

I think that 'to friend' is a verb in the same way that 'to Google' and 'to Facebook' are... =)

[jadesfire2808.livejournal.com]

*nods* Yup, that makes sense :)

[becky-h.livejournal.com]

I really admire you doing that - I just do. I need to do that over here, and I just don't have the nerve. Maybe I'll make it a New Year's resolution.

[jadesfire2808.livejournal.com]

I figure people who are miffed about it can let me know, but people who know me will get it. It was a bit "Gulp...should I do this?" but I'm missing stuff I really want to see, and am too swamped to read anything really. So, scary but worth it. Until I get flamed ;)

[becky-h.livejournal.com]

If anyone flames you, I'm sure those people who do know you will circle the wagons, because you're right - very much necessary for your own peace of mind.

...And saying this to you is good for me. *wanders off to contemplate and grow a spine*

[jadesfire2808.livejournal.com]

It was pretty much a matter of closing my eyes and hitting 'post' and it took me half an hour to word the message...

And thanks :)

[entangled-now.livejournal.com]

Trimming your friends list of journals you don't really read or don't have anything in common with anymore is always awkward. Mine's fairly huge but I just tend to find people genuinely interesting. I just haven't had to think about doing one yet.

But I know how hard it is, which is why I leave a little note in my profile that basically says 'feel free to defriend me if we've fandom drifted or through general apathy.'

[jadesfire2808.livejournal.com]

It's defintely one of those squirmy things, but things do drift - I can't help wondering if there's a sense of relief that someone's done it so you don't have to, if you see what I mean...

[entangled-now.livejournal.com]

It is, and I know I'm not going to enjoy when or if I eventually have to do it.

Yes, I think I know what you mean, I've been defriended by people that I probably wouldn't have kept. But I've also been defriended by people I was finding quite interesting and amusing and afterwards did the slightly bewildered bit. But I try not to take this stuff to heart, after all, since some people really just use their flist as a reading list.